Grieve; Healthily

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Grief and its aftermath affect all of us at some point. This might consist of grief over deaths, divorce, job upheavals, loss of physical capacities or any number of other losses we encounter during life.

Research shows that, in general, people are a lot more resilient than they often give themselves credit for. They’re able to move through the bereavement process in a wholesome way, often feeling intense emotions immediately after the loss, but finally making peace with it and incorporating it into the fabric of their lives.

When you experience a major loss, it’s usually very helpful to give yourself permission to fully experience your emotions, rather than burying them. Other things that people often find beneficial are talking about the loss with people they are close to, linking a bereavement support group, Malabar Bat Removal, journalling, doing artwork or creating a ritual related to the loss. These activities, together with the passage of time, can facilitate grieving.

However, some people do get somewhat frozen and find it difficult to move forward with their lives. Although time passes, emotionally these people never fully grieve their loss, so that they carry it forward with them in a toxic manner. That can manifest itself in several ways, such as the individual retreating from life or not having the ability to form intimate bonds with other people in the future. In those situations, professional mental health care may be called for.

Concerning books I recommend regarding grief, here are a couple of my favorites. “Healing After Loss” is particularly helpful immediately following a loss, and “The Grief Recovery Handbook” outlines a structured procedure for dealing with losses, recent or past. Another excellent book is “The Other Side of Sadness” by George Bonanno, which outlines fascinating recent research into despair and the powerful emotions associated with it.


Hurricanes Can Be Deadly

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A hurricane’s deadly forces

Hurricanes have an arsenal of effects that can destroy property and cause loss of life. The combination of water and wind can have devastating impacts on man and nature. Learn what these mortal features can do and how to survive them.

Storm Tides and Waves

Storm surge is just the rise in water that floods the coast as water is pushed onshore by strong winds, and to a much lesser degree very low pressure. It’s important that you know the tides of the coastal area where you’re located. For example, a lot of locations on the Gulf coast have quite little tidal ranges, whereas places on the U.S. east coast have large tidal ranges. It makes a significant difference on the consequences to the coast if a hurricane moves ashore during a low or high tide in a place where the tidal range is large. Today, inland flood causes the largest loss of life. Before, when hurricane forecasting technology was not as sophisticated, storm surge was the reason for the majority of deaths. It is best to leave a structure that could be impacted by the storm tide of a hurricane. The force from sea water is extremely powerful and can destroy a home easily. High waves take the debris from destroyed buildings that are on the shore that batter other structures farther inland. Nevertheless, it is best not to “ride out” a hurricane and evacuate to a safer location.

High Winds

Hurricanes create strong sustained winds which have the capability of destroying structures and toppling trees and power lines. The Saffir-Simpson hurricane scale gives an estimate on the type of wind damage which can be expected with various categories of hurricanes. A significant hurricane is considered a class 3 or higher. Maximum sustained winds are greater than or equal to 111 mph. Strong winds can blow off in garage doors, break windows, Malabar Rat Removal, or lift roofs off of homes. Be certain that you have shutters or plywood to cover windows properly during a hurricane. Also, know how structurally sound your roof and garage doors are so that they will not fail in the event of high winds. The safest place to stay is in the basement to protect you and your loved ones from high winds. If you are in a flood zone, then evacuate to higher ground. If you don’t have a basement, find a small room on the lowest floor with no windows near the middle of the house to stay.


Tornadoes are many times associated with land falling tropical cyclones. The tornadoes usually occur in outer rain bands in the right front quadrant with respect to storm movement. Most of the tornadoes happen within a day of land fall, even though it’s potential for tornadoes to still happen two or three days later still connected with the circulation. The most significant hurricane associated tornado outbreak on record happened with Hurricane Ivan in 2004 with 123 tornadoes. Contrary to their Midwest cousins, tornadoes on average are poorer in hurricanes. There is usually a weaker signature on radar and hail nearly never accompanies them. Stronger land falling hurricanes have a greater potential to create tornadoes than weaker ones. Tornadoes happen with land falling hurricanes as the storm moves over land and encounters greater low level friction from the land. This slows the wind at the surface more than higher aloft, adding to vertical wind shear. It’s this growth in wind shear that sets up an environment favorable for tornado development. Follow the same safety guidelines for high winds to protect you and your family from the harmful effects of tornadoes.


All hurricanes don’t produce severe flooding. There are lots of factors that contribute to the flooding potential of a hurricane or weaker tropical cyclone. The most important element is the rate of movement. If a tropical cyclone moves into a region where steering currents from the winds aloft are feeble, very heavy rain can result. It’s possible for the tropical cyclone to be almost stationary for days resulting in very heavy rainfall amounts of 40 to 50 inches or more. Rainfall amounts are also affected by the terrain of a location. Mountains cause an additional lift to happen, improving rain rates on the windward slopes. The surrounding environment where the hurricane forms is another consideration. If a hurricane forms in the deep tropics, it generally can tap a deeper source of deep layered moisture. Hurricanes which form in higher latitudes have a higher chance of entraining dry air from mid latitude weather systems limiting moisture. When a tropical cyclone is coming, understand the potential for heavy rainfall to make flooding or flash flooding where you live.

Improve Your Self Control

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Self-control is the ability to subdue our impulses to be able to achieve longer-term goals rather than reacting to immediate impulses. The capacity to exert self control is typically called willpower, which allows us to direct our attention toward targets. And, therefore, it underlies all kinds of achievement.

A psychologist named Walter Mischel, in a psychology experiment in 1970, placed a treat in front of children and offered them a choice – they might either enjoy a treat of marshmallow now, or wait a short period of time to be able to get two snacks. The experimenter then left the room.

He found on coming into the room after some time that many of the kids immediately ate the marshmallow, but a portion of the kids could put off the urge to enjoy the treat now and await the benefit of getting two yummy goodies later on.

Mischel found later that the kids, who had waited for the cure, performed better academically than children, who ate the treat right away. Those, who delayed their satisfaction, also displayed fewer behavioral problems and had much higher SAT scores.

In followup experiments, Mischel discovered that using several diversion techniques helped children delay gratification more efficiently. Melbourne Raccoon Removal

The children in Mischel’s study had the promise of a secondary reward for waiting only a short period of time. But, on the contrary, regular scenarios don’t always come with this guarantee and, therefore, it becomes quite difficult to delay gratification.

Unpredictability of future rewards –

The uncertainty about future rewards makes delaying immediate gratification a true challenge. And, that’s why, many think why not have immediately that’s there in front of us. May be, it may not be there later!

If on a diet, many will lose their self-control and give into temptation to enjoy a delicious dish at a party. They’ll argue with themselves that even after following a diet plan, they are facing difficulty in losing weight. So why not enjoy the cure! They forget at the time that a weight loss plan requires real self-control.

Developing self-control –

We can look at self-control as a muscle, and like our physical muscles, we can reinforce it by training.

Each time you tell yourself “I can not,” you’re creating a feedback, which is a reminder of your own limitations. This terminology indicates that you’re forcing yourself to do something that you don’t wish to do. So, by creating positive affirmations like “I will do it”, you will have the ability to retrain your responses to situations which require self-control. With many repetitions of such affirmations, you will be able to develop good self-control.

Delay immediate gratification – Delaying instant gratification is one potent way to develop self-control. Delaying gratification involves the capacity to wait to get what one desires. Though it’s often quite difficult, it’s most important for developing self-control. Picking a long-term reward over immediate gratification poses a significant challenge in many areas of life. One can employ diversionary tactics like considering something else, or simply walking from the sight of tempting thing or merely reminding yourself that delaying will yield more benefits. It actually has to be done repeatedly until you can fortify your will-power.

Do meditations frequently – Experts agree upon the board that a regular practice of meditation provides many advantages of overall mental and physical well-being to the practitioner. It helps reduce the levels of emotional reactivity and impulsivity because it provides a latency to the practitioner prior to reacting. The latency keeps increasing as the pro advances in the practice of meditation. It is this latency period that gives a person time to think before reacting, which, in its place, comes as proactive response. So, rather than giving in to the temptation of instant gratification, you will have some opportunity to change your mind. And it doesn’t take a lifetime of exercise but, on the contrary, behavioral changes to counteract reactivity have been observed following eight weeks of brief daily meditation training.

Learn to manage stress – High levels of anxiety entice us to surrender to temptations, forcing us to make decisions based on short-tem outcomes, because the procedure of decision making requires energy, and we’re low on energy level under high stress. By being relaxed, we will have the ability to make sound decisions with far reaching positive consequences. Our self-control gives in, when we are under any type of high stress, particularly if that involves emotions. Thus, we can conclude that if we learn to manage our stress well, we’ll have better self-control.