Grief and its aftermath affect all of us at some point. This might consist of grief over deaths, divorce, job upheavals, loss of physical capacities or any number of other losses we encounter during life.
Research shows that, in general, people are a lot more resilient than they often give themselves credit for. They’re able to move through the bereavement process in a wholesome way, often feeling intense emotions immediately after the loss, but finally making peace with it and incorporating it into the fabric of their lives.
When you experience a major loss, it’s usually very helpful to give yourself permission to fully experience your emotions, rather than burying them. Other things that people often find beneficial are talking about the loss with people they are close to, linking a bereavement support group, Malabar Bat Removal, journalling, doing artwork or creating a ritual related to the loss. These activities, together with the passage of time, can facilitate grieving.
However, some people do get somewhat frozen and find it difficult to move forward with their lives. Although time passes, emotionally these people never fully grieve their loss, so that they carry it forward with them in a toxic manner. That can manifest itself in several ways, such as the individual retreating from life or not having the ability to form intimate bonds with other people in the future. In those situations, professional mental health care may be called for.
Concerning books I recommend regarding grief, here are a couple of my favorites. “Healing After Loss” is particularly helpful immediately following a loss, and “The Grief Recovery Handbook” outlines a structured procedure for dealing with losses, recent or past. Another excellent book is “The Other Side of Sadness” by George Bonanno, which outlines fascinating recent research into despair and the powerful emotions associated with it.