When a man and a woman are together, and they are both in touch with their power, there’ll be no requirement for one of them to try to rescue the other. They will both have boundaries and they will not be carrying too much baggage.
So, instead of seeing each other as competitors; they will be able to truly be there for each other and to offer their service when it’s necessary. This will enable them to grow and to grow.
As a result of this, being together will have a positive effect on their lives. Now, this does not mean that there won’t be moments when their wounds have been triggered; what it means is that they will have the ability to work through them.
This is very likely to show that they realise that a relationship is not supposed to be filled with pleasure; that there will be times when pain arises.
There is a strong likelihood that both of them have done a fair amount of work on themselves in order to have a relationship like this.
Both of them will have the urge to face and to work on their own issues, and absolutely no interest in blaming their partner for what comes up for them. In addition to the effect that this relationship will have on their life, there will also be the effect that is has on the world around them.
A Bigger Impact
The positivity and love that is generated between them will wind up being spread far and wide.
If on the other hand, one of them was trying to save the other, it would prevent them from being able to have much of an impact on the world. One of them would not be in a good way and another would be spending most of their time and energy trying to change the others life.
A Common Occurrence
But while it’ll be far more satisfying for someone to be in relationship where they do not need to save their spouse, this is not something that constantly take place. This then results in a scenario where a guy is attempting to save a women or a girl is trying to save a man – and this is something that can, of course, take place between two men and two women.
When this does occur, one person will be behaving more like the other persons parent than their partner. Nevertheless, this can be what is normal to them, meaning that they won’t have the ability to understand how dysfunctional this is.
A Way of Life
A man can then be in a relationship with a woman whose life is not going anywhere, and, in addition to this, she might even have psychological and emotional challenges. Being with her is then going to take a lot out of him, giving him Pest Control.
It will then be as though his life force is being squeezed out of him, but this won’t be enough to push him off. And, no matter what he does for her, there is the possibility that her life won’t actually change.
One of Many
What might help to encourage this belief is that he might have quite a few male friends that are also with women who come across as though they are incapable. Yet, if he was to end up with a girl who didn’t need saving, he might soon lose interest in her.
There is the possibility that the man will have a played the role of the rescuer for so long that he probably doesn’t know how else to act.
Consequently, if another person does not have to be rescued, it may be as if he has no goal. He may also feel ashamed of his own needs; consequently, rescuing others can be a way for him to fulfil his own needs.
Ultimately, this is just going to be a mask that he wears to receive approval; it will not have anything to do with that he really is. His true wants and feelings are likely to be covered up, and the fear of being rejected and/or abandoned is likely to be what keeps them hidden from others.
This can show is that he needed to take care of his health professionals needs during the start of his life. The roles where then reversed and he became the caregiver and his caregiver/s became the child/children.
He would have thought that there was something wrong with his requirements, and dismissing his needs would have been a matter of survival, which was why he had to disconnect from them and to focus on his caregivers wants. This would be taken as a indication that there was something inherently wrong with him, setting him up to believe that he was worthless.
A false-self would then have been created, with this being a way for him to please his caregivers. Through being around people who could not take care of their own needs, he may have believed that other people were incapable and it was his job to rescue them.
So, even though he would have come to feel that there was something wrong with his true-self, he would have developed false-self that enabled him to feel empowered. Rescuing others can be what allows him to feel strong and powerful; whereas when he had been to let go off this function he could hit rock bottom.
If a guy can relate to this and that he wants to change his life, it may be a good idea for him to reach out for outside support. This can be provided by a therapist or a healer.